Discipline makes a child aware of what is right and wrong in thouht, word and deed as well as what is beneficial and harmful. It makes the child understand the standards and morals of the society in which he lives. It teaches him that he does not exist by himself and that he has to respect the rights and wishes of others.
Why your child needs discipline? You need to discipline your child not because you wish to control his freedom of action but in order to correct his mistakes before they become bad habits and prepare him to assume responsibilities for his actions. Discipline is best started at an early age. Otherwise, the child not yet in full control of his movements not aware of the consequences of his actions, may come to harm or bring harm to others. The child is naturally active and inquisitive. He moves a lot and likes to poke around. This may lead to a number of delightful discoveries as well as a few painful mishaps. But as his experiences accumulate and he sees the effect of his little adventures and misadventures on those around him, he realizes that there ought to be limits to his actions. He learns to control himself. He becomes responsible for his actions. He achieves self-discipline.
Discipline starts around the age of two, as soon as the child grasps some of the things you say and do. At this point he can be taught some do’s and don’ts. At two, for instance, toilet training should be underway. The child does not learn discipline instantaneously. He sholuld be given time to learn the rules and enough practice to observe them. There is a saying that “ Kung ano ang ginagawa ng matatanda ay ginagaya ng mga bata”. By this, he should be encouraged to ask questions about these rules so he will understand why they are necessary. It is easier for him to follow rules, he finds reasonable.
Your attitude towards discipline determines the kind of parent-child relationship you will share. It affects the child’s view of you as parent or guardian as well as his view of himself. A child is very sensitive to his parent’s attitude even if these are not openly expressed. Overprotective and strict parents create mistrust and lead to the child’s loss of confidence in himself. On the other hand, too permissive parents create impression they do not care and love their child. There are guidelines on discipline to be learned by your child. But still, discipline depends on parents’ capcity to mold their children as they grow up.
By: Alicia B. Reyes | Teacher III | Limay Elementary School | Limay, Bataan
