Stubbornness is cute in a toddler but by the time the child reaches school age, unruly behaviour is a problem for parents, teachers, and others. The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own parenting methods probably allowed our child to become unruly and by altering them, we can help our child behave properly.

 

For both teachers and parents, they have to set clear boundaries and stick to them. A child needs to know the exact behaviour expected of him. Child experts tell us that children actually want boundaries and that once firmly established; most children will respect the rules. Another thing is to make very few threats but carry on through the ones that you make. If you aren’t to make good on a threat, just don’t make it.

 

For parents, spend time with your child.  You don’t have to plan activities every minute of the day. Just taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him to do his homework on the kitchen table while you cook creates a feeling of togetherness and may reduce unruly behaviour that stems from insecurity.

 

More so, set reasonable punishments that get results. All children are different and one child may respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his allowance reduced. Avoid using chores as punishment. Children should do chores without pay as part of being in a family.

 

Lastly, reward your child’s good behaviour. Positive reinforcement carries a strong message to your child. Children who receive praise for good acts try harder to behave.

By: Marissa C. Cruz | Teacher III | Orani North Elementary School | Orani, Bataan