Stubbornness is cute in toddler but by the time the child reaches school age, unruly behavior is a problem for parents, teachers and others. The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own parenting methods probably allowed our child to become unruly and by alternating them, we can help our child behave appropriately.

            For both teachers and parents, they have to set clear boundaries and stick to them. A child needs to know the exact behavior expected of him. Child experts tell us that children actually want boundaries and that once firmly established, most children will respect the rules. Another thing is make very do make. If you aren’t ready to make good on a threat, just don’t make it.

            For parents, spend time with your child. You don’t have to plan activities for every minute of the day, just taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him to do his homework at the kitchen table while you cook creates a feeling of togetherness and may reduce unruly behavior that stems from insecurity.

            More so, set reasonable punishments that get results. All children are different and one child may respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his allowance reduced.  Avoid using chores as a punishment. Children should do chores without pay as part of being a family.

            Lastly, reward your child’s good behavior. Positive reinforcement carries a strong message to your child. Children who receive praise for good acts try harder to behave.

 

By: Annaliza S. Manalansan | Master Teacher I | JC Payumo Jr. Memorial High School | Dinalupihan, Bataan