Sometimes, we all hit a bad day. That all we do is just plain wrong and we feel worthless.It’s something we all feel at times and we hate to feel this way. And everyone wants to shake it off.
Maybe, someone would tell you that you’re not good for this person because you’re not attractive and successful and that you are not equal to someone’s success. People may say that you’re not doing good in your work and you’re not good enough in every way. Even if you have done your best effort, you still receive criticisms. Then, eventually, you feel worthless.
Let me share with you a children’s song entitled “More Than Enough” by Shawna Edwards in her album -”The Miracle – Songs of Faith for Children & Youth”. This song is dedicated to dedicated mothers and everyone who cares and loves a child. We can take comfort in these lines.
So when you stay by my side,
Hear my stories at night,
And teach me to trust in God’s love,
You gave me a hug, maybe two,
And you say, “I love you”
Then I think you’re more than enough.
And I’m blessed every step by your kind.
But, why am I still feeling not good enough? There may be countless reasons why we feel inadequate in some aspects of our lives.
- UNAWARE OF ONE’S WORTH. If you too feel you’re not doing enough, it is because you don’t realize yet the worth of yourself and unaware of who you can be. Don’t be misguided! There is so much in this world that needs you and me. People are imbued with diverse personalities and skills who can make a big difference in this world. We have different roles in our life and we are not experts in everything. We can be good at one thing and not doing enough for other things. Sometimes we fail in one aspect of our life because it’s not our forte or expertise. But this failure doesn’t sum up the totality of our being.
In one time of our life we become unworthy of acceptance or praise because we fall short. This doesn’t define who you really are. You are a child of God and you mean everything to Him.
Recognizing our individual’s worth is vital in achieving whatever our hearts desire.
Remember that we are still learning and trying to improve each day. Sometimes we don’t recognize our strengths because we focus so much on our weaknesses.
In the movie “ Lion King”, Mufasa said to his son Simba, “Remember who you are!”.
Remember, we may be nothing in someone’s eyes but in the eyes of our Father in heaven, we are valued beyond measure.
- LISTENING TO WHAT OTHERS SAY. Sometimes, we become consumed with what people say we’re not. It creeps in our mindset and we let this emotion rules over us. Just stop. They don’t know the real you. They can’t see what’s inside of you and most of all they can’t see what you can do. They say this because you don’t fit in.. but why should you want to fit in when you can be different. You can be way more. You don’t need to conform to what is normal and right in the eyes of the people. You don’t have to listen to your outer and inner critics. You can shut them down.
- COMPARISON. Despite the truth that we are valued and loved, many of us struggle from time to time with negative feelings about ourselves. It’s because we constantly compare ourselves against others’ successes. We constantly think we are not enough. Buddha said, “What you think is what you become.”Remember our five fingers have different length but each has an equal importance.
It’s time we cast our own shadows. We fail sometimes to learn that we can do more. Sometimes things go wrong even when we’re doing our best. Things may not work out as we expected but it will. Focus on the progress rather than perfection. If you are better now that you were yesterday, that is enough. And when you become better tomorrow than you are today, then that is enough. Your sacrifices matter more than your successes.
If you have little success in your endeavor, it’s alright. What’s important is we persistently and consistently do our best. It’s hard and it’s a long shot before we can reach whatever our heart desires most. We can do better and be better. Every day is a chance for us to become better, little by little.
By: Joselyn L. Gardoci | Teacher II | Bataan National High School
