School children along with their personalities affect learning as they enter the school promises. One important aspect which is essential for a teacher to discover is the child’s attitude toward authority. As I observed there are two types of attitudes among the children.
The hostile and the compliant.
The hostile pupils usually come from families where there is conditional love among members. This love can be learned by being a good child, that is being obedient to parents rules, studying hard, learning the proper attitude, behaving properly in and out of school. These pupils seemed to retaliate when teachers give them criticism, suggestions or things to do after a misbehavior or deviant action.
Restrictions and conflicts that come from house rules of parents harbor hostile feelings. The child’s perception of parental love depends on die parent’ approval of his behavior. When that love was withdrawn, the child rebels or explodes. This is the case found especially among children brought up in rigid way.
Complaint children on the other hand mostly come from a home where they are loved unconditionally. It is an environment where children are accepted regardless of what they do that doing the right things, behaving properly in and out of school is an inner will and must come from the child because he is loved and loves his parents so much. Upon misbehaving nothing will change. Parental support and misunderstanding is felt through proper consultation and guidance. Once the child felt forgiveness or acceptance of whatever he did, he is self-assured and will obey his parents in return.
This in school or wherever the child is determines his adaptability to any situation or authority figure. Most excelling pupils come from homes where there is unconditional love.
We all are contributory to developing a child’s attitude towards authority. Tantrums and misbehaviors can be minimized if children will feel our unconditional love for them. It is a challenge for everyone. So let’s all be one in bringing out our unconditional love to our future citizens.
By: Rose Darren G. Buenaventura | T-I | Mariveles National High School (Cabcaben)| Mariveles, Bataan
