Is there a time in your life when you find yourself very depressedbecause everything you expected in life didn’t turn out the way you want them to be? Or maybe you wanted to have a career movement after working so hard for quite a long time,butunfortunately your boss doesn’t seem to notice all your hardwork and loyalty due to some “sipsip” employee or “palakasan system” meandering within your workplace.Or have you ever been in a situation when you find yourself trapped in a marriage where all you got to do is to attend to the needs of your family – prepare your husband’s work outfit, bring your child to school, clean the house, go to the market, cook food, do the laundry, wait for them to come home, wash the dishes before you go to bed…again and again and again…. Sometimes, all you could do is to say “STTTTOOOOOOOOOOOOP! I don’t want it anymore! I’m totally fed up!”
But what seems to be the problem? Is it the situation? “Probably!” you might answer..Is it your horoscope for the day which doesn’t seem to align with your guiding stars? “Come on I don’t even know my zodiac!”Most likely, you exclaim.Is there something wrong about your boss? Maybe, he thought that you arerich enoughand an increase in your salary is a little less for you to appreciate. “Huh! Is there such a thing?”,undoubtedly you murmur. Or it is your husband?Perhaps he did not fulfill his promises about giving you the moon and the stars just to marry him. “Yeah right! Maybe this is not the kind of life I am with if I didn’t believe in his words,” certainly you reply.
Duh! What really seems to be the problem dude?
Did you try to stop even for at least a second and try to figure it out? Instead of blaming the situation, why not try to determine the root cause of the complexityand from there you can come up with a clear solution for the said intricacies.
Try not to blame your boss nor your officemates. Why not try to discern what is lacking in your work attitude that makes you unnoticeable from your boss’ eyes.From there, try to work it out. And instead of branding your officemates as “sipsip”, or worst, “higop”, why not try to get along with them and who knows, eventually you can get pointers from them that can help you improve your style at workand achieve it easily and impressively. Work done way below the deadline means less pressure, plus boss satisfaction equals promotion if done spontaneously.
How about your family? Are there really questions in taking care of them? Well, they should be the coreof ourexistence in the first place. If you feel like being trapped in your marriage life, why not try to see your situation as a gift and not as a mound.
Fed up with your lazy husband or nagging wife? Each and everyone doesn’t have the same family status. Some are complete and some are broken.There are those single parents who raise their children on their own by working and trying to survive their day to day lives at the same time, and it is not that easy. At least we have our significant other beside us who can help usin any given situation. Love our partners.
Got bored with your day to day household chores? Really? At least we got a house to do our chores.Many families especially in urban areasdon’t even have a decent house to livein. One more thing, got stuck in taking care of your children? Gosh! Somecoupleswanted to have even one to call their own.Be thankful.Enjoy our kids especially when they are still little, for there will come a point in their lives that we as parents become least in their priorities.
Thus, what really seems to be the problem? Or rather, should I say: “Who really seems to be the problem?” Clearly it is “us”. The way we perceive things and the way we reactin every given situation is what really matters most.
It is just a matter of acceptance and how we see the true meaning of our existence. Acceptance in the sense that we came to realize that every situation are true and really happening in this world, all we need to do is to fit in.But it must notend there.We must learn to cope to the fast changing phase of events that life has to offer.
Lastly,let’s try to appreciate and give thanks forevery little thing God had given us, our FAMILY, HEALTH, TALENT, WISDOMamong others, but most importantly our LIVES. Try not to live our lives just for the sake of living,but rather give meaning and color to the life that we’reliving in so that it will radiate to those who sees emptiness in them. Always put a smile in our face so that the world will smile back at us. LIFE is GOOD. Having said that, what seems to be the problem? I think….there is none.
By: Relita de Jesus- Alarcon
