Juggling a full-time job with a family life is never easy as a mother. Most of the time we feel guilty and stressed because our attention is divided between our work and family. As a working mother, I learned that being focus on the moment is the key to have a balance life. Instead of having the guilt feeling that you left your child at home, justify why you are working – it is for the benefit of your son and family. Divert your mind to your work, what are the priorities for today, and start to organize and start working, later you know you are fully focused on your work.
Plan ahead of the day or organize “to do” things in the evening so your morning will not be difficult. Prepare everything your child and your needs in the evening; like your uniform, the things you need to bring, your kids diaper, the bottle milk, etc. It is easier to leave your kids when you know everything is set for them even when you are away. Create a calendar for the family events. The lists of birthdays, parties, get together, visit of family members from abroad, special events to be celebrated that needs your attention or time to prepare should be in calendar. Doing this, you can plan ahead what is necessary to finish at work prior to the event so you will not feel guilty of leaving the work unfinished.
Stay connected with your loved ones during your break time. A short call or messages will make both of your days. Do what you can do when your child is sleeping but try to avoid multi-tasking when you are with your family. Leave for the moment, as I have mentioned already. When you are with your family, stay focused and do not think of your work. Arrange a family get together at least once a year to meet all the family members and catch up with them. Spend time with your husband; create a dinner date, at home or in the restaurant. Often time, when we are too busy it is our partner that usually neglected. So it is our duty to make up with them. This couple time out will make us closer and rejuvenate our relationship. By managing your time wisely between career and family life, you can create a moment for yourself. The “me” time will be easily achieved as it is very crucial to have time for yourself since you are doing many things. You cannot be effective if you are not healthy and happy. Treat yourself well as you are needed by your work and your family.
By: Arlyn P. Atienza | Teacher – I | Mathematics | Bataan National High School | Balanga City, Bataan
