Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.

            People usually criticize others at times because seeing someone down seems to lessen their own scrutiny, and unloading their burdens deep inside from a long time ago, because of their own faults. They criticize because they feel relieved for the comparison of their selves from others. And according to my best experiences and researches we could actually criticize the positively! We could be gentle and nice as the Bible tells us, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1). So if we happen to encounter difficulties or contradiction, let us not break but bend them with softness. The matter is how much do you believe them and do you happen to believe them or if the person who criticizes has the integrity to do so. If we understand why people criticize, we could be good leaders, performers and the like, it’s just that we have to take it positively- after all the truth hard fact is we will never please all people at all time.

Also, such as a people pleaser could never please everybody so take it the positive way!

Constructive criticism aims to improve and seeks to develop the skills of a certain individual. One acid test of constructive criticism is approaching the person in a positive way by calling his/her attention gently and talking to him/her privately. In this case, both parties will be free from unhelpful buzz and there is a big chance of winning the trust of the person because you make the correct move.

By: Roselene M. Silva