Stubbornness is cute in toddler but by the time the child reaches school age, unruly behaviour is a problem for parents, teachers, friends and others. The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own parenting methods probably allowed our children to become unruly and by altering them, we can help our child, behave appropriately.

                        For both teachers and parents, they have to set clear boundaries and stick to them. A child needs to know the exact behaviour expected of him. Child experts tell us that children actually want boundaries and that once firmly established; most children will respect the rules. Another thing is make very few threats but carry through on those you do make. If you aren’t ready to make good threat, just don’t make it.

                        For parents, spend more time with your children most of the time. You don’t have to plan activities for every minute of the day, just taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him or her to do his or her homework at the kitchen table while you cook. It creates a strong feeling of togetherness and may reduce unruly behaviour that stems from insecurity. Security means a lot.

                        Moreover, set reasonable punishment that get results. All children are different and one child may respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his or her allowance reduced. Avoid using chores punishment. Children should do chores without payment as part of being a family.

                        Lastly, reward your child’s good behaviour. Positive reinforcement carries a strong message to your child. Children who receive good praises, warm hug and kisses or good acts from their parent try harder to behave.

 

By: Mrs. Rhea A. Galola | Teacher I | Townsite Elementary School | Mariveles, Bataan